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ULYANA LYUBOVYCH H e l l o K i e v — F a r e w e ll K ie v * with him and he is accepted on those basis. For his wife, says the physician, it is a different story. “Her identity as a person, apart from being a wife and mother, is rarely transferable. Her life becomes fragmented.” Nearly every wife is eager to see her husband get ahead and she will support him in this en deavor, yet psychologically it is the wife who suffers the most. She is uprooted from her friends, her community and whatever work she contributed. In her new surroundings nothing is known >of her but that she is the wife of the new manager, ex ecutive, etc. She must start from scratch. , Of course says Dr. Seidenberg, not everyone finds new sur rounding a difficulty. Some women actually thrive on the moves their families must make. They like to travel and find this a fabulous opportunity to expand their knowledge and horizons. Unfortunately they are in the minority. The most common symptom among the “executive wives” on the move is loneliness, claims Dr. Seidenberg. In many cases he says, it is remedied by a drift to ward alcoholism and the tremen dous use of tranquilizers. Twice as many women as men betwTeen the ages of 20 and 40 are on tranquilizers continues the phy- sisian. Frequent upheavals in the household also tend to have an adverse effect on the children, who find security in friends and familiar surroundings, says Dr. Seidenberg. Although he finds that there is no clear cut remedy for this particular problem of the “exec utive wife,” Dr. Seidenberg be lieves that much of the stress can be alleviated through educa tion. A supporter of the women’s liberation movement, the psy chiatrist feels that self expres sion in any field of endeavor is as necessary to women as it is to men. He hopes that “sometimes in the future many more inde pendent women in this country will share intellectually reward ing lives with their husbands.” Our train, one of many, circled Lviv and sped east. It passed villages and cities, at first ones that we knew personally or through friends that had visited or lived in them. Constantly we tried to find some way of getting a message back to our family. This seemed very important. We dropped notes out of the lit tle window of our freight car whenever we saw somebody passing, even if the train was in motion. Sometimes we could see the person pick up the piece of paper and wave to us. Maybe they would forward it home. What home? We no longer had a home. But at any rate, to our na tive city, to our friends there. We reached Ternopil. Here they let us go out for water, two people out of every car. Heavily guarded, of course. A crowd ga thered near the pump where we went for the water. We saw com passion in their faces ; some peo ple called out questions, but no body was allowed to approach us. One .railroad worker, taking ad vantage of the guard’s momen tary inattention, pressed a small packet into my hand. Later, in the train, I saw that it was his lunch, probably carefully pre pared for him by his wife. Two pieces of bread with sausage. What a wealth of humanity and sympathy there was in his im pulsive gesture- Excerpt from “Tales of Kazakh stan,” translated by O. Dragan. As advice to the husbands on this subject the doctor has this to say - - “the most important thing is that a man not assume when he marries that his wife has no identity needs of her own. There aren’t any intrinsic or bio logical things that make a wom an able to give up more than a man. She’ll resent any sacrifices she must make as much as a man would.” M. B. Travelling on, we crossed the border. Now we were on the ter ritory of Eastern Ukraine, which we knew so wrell from history and legend, which we had dreamed about so often. Of the people in the car, our mother was the only one who had been here before. Years ago, when men in both sections of Ukraine were working in the same organiza tions against tsarist Russia, she had travelled here from Galicia bringing illegal literature. How different it was now. She sat in a corner, her head leaning on her hand in a characteristic way. Her shining brown eyes were calm and resigned, but when she looked at us they filled with wor ry and despair — not for herself, but for her children. We recognized that we had crossed the border not only by place names. The landscape also changed. Its basic motif became poorly cultivated fields and din gy, neglected houses. The shab bily dressed people stared at us, and we stared at them. The pre vailing mood and color of every thing — people, buildings, sky — seemed to be gray. In Zhmerynka we were again allowed to go out for water. Here the looks we encountered were more curious than compassion ate. Again I tried to smuggle a message through, even though the guards watched us closely. As I passed a girl more or less my own age, who stood not tak ing her eyes off us, I pressed a letter into her hand when the guard wasn’t looking. “Please buy a stamp and mail this letter,” I begged her. She looked down and saw that I had handed her some money along with the note. She gave the money back, saying, “Don’t worry, I’ll mail your letter.” Then she added, “You people look at us as if we were wild ani mals.” Taken aback, I wanted to ask Видання C оюзу Українок A мерики - перевидано в електронному форматі в 2012 році . A рхів C У A - Ню Йорк , Н . Й . C Ш A.
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